Obesity, and especially morbid obesity, has a huge range of physical effects. Those that suffer from obesity have an increased chance of developing other serious diseases, have less energy, and suffer from depression and low self esteem. They also tend to have problems in the bedroom.
When a person is obese, their sex life suffers. A report presented at a meeting of The North American Association for the Study of Obesity by Martin Binks, PhD, from Duke University Medical Center, shows that morbidly obese Americans are 25 times more likely than those of normal weight to report problems with their sex lives. It's a dramatic difference.
Why does this problem so widely affect the obese? There are a variety of reasons, both physical and emotional. The larger a person gets, the more problems he or she will report in the bedroom-- the desire for sex, sexual performance, and even sexual enjoyment fall dramatically. The physical restrictions placed on the obese by excess weight often make sexual activity too difficult or strenuous. In addition, a constant lack of energy and feeling of lethargy will tend to reduce the desire for sex.
Another impact obesity has on sexuality is a psychological one. Obesity brings along with it lowered self-esteem and often feelings of shame. These feelings lead to an unwillingness to display the body or make oneself vulnerable to their partner. The physical effects of obesity can also lead to performance anxiety, making partners unwilling to attempt to perform sexually. In a study of 928 obese men and women, of those seeking treatment for their obesity 50% had a decreased sex drive and trouble wanting sex, 42% felt they had problems performing sexually, and 41% said they avoided sex altogether.
Obesity also affects sexuality through its impact on marriages and relationships in and of themselves. Shame is a common consequence of obesity, and it often tends to cause an emotional imbalance within relationship. This happens where one partner feels "more worthless" than the other partner. Also, the partners of overweight persons can, at times, have problems finding their partner sexually attractive. This is especially common when the bulk of the weight gain occurred during the course of the relationship. When this happens in a relationship, it is hurtful and difficult to face for both partners, and communication about these issues is usually avoided. But in the end, avoidance of this topic only creates further problems in a relationship, as it cuts off lines of communication.
A large number of factors play into the sexual problems experienced by obese individuals. When physical problems are as severely compounded by psychological issues, as occurs with obesity, sexual dysfunction can seem an insurmountable obstacle. It's important, though, to seek help if you're experiencing problems with sexual performance or sex drive due to obesity.
Simply taking the first steps to seek obesity treatment has a positive emotional impact, allowing obese persons to feel some level of control over their situation. Sexual satisfaction is a basic human need, and it's just one more key reason to care for your health and try to find healthful solutions to the problem of obesity.
A strong sex life with another person can be very fulfilling, which can leave very positive effects on many areas of your life. It may be true that as you get older, sex may not be the same as it was earlier in life, but many things change along with age. Aging is one of many natural changes, which can affect intimacy, as well as the psychological changes, which accompany it.
Regardless of whether or not you are older or younger, everyone needs intimacy. That fact does not change simply because your age does. Older men, for example, enjoy life including the part of his life, which contains intimate relationships, even if it is not experienced in the same way that it was years ago.
As men get older, they have a harder time achieving an erection. Often when they do get one it is not as hard as preferred, nor will it last as long as preferred. To overcome this, you can try different sexual positions during intercourse positions which feel better to you,, hence helping to overcome the hardships. If it is difficult to maintain an erection and/or difficult to reach an orgasm, you can talk to your doctor, who will help advise you. There are many medications that can help assist you, and your doctor will be able to help decide which is best for you, or help recommend other options for you.
As women get older, most changing takes place during menopause. This is when the production of testosterone and estrogen decrease. At this point, it takes longer for the vagina to swell, and it takes longer and harder to become lubricated. Along with this, the vagina is not as elastic as it once was. An effect like this can be painful when experienced during intercourse. This is especially true when you experience more than one of these effects.
To help accommodate these effects, increase the length of foreplay. This can help encourage natural lubrication, which will make intercourse less painful. If natural lubrication is difficult to achieve, try purchasing a lubricant (but remember that some lubricants can break down the condom). Otherwise, the best treatment for vaginal dryness and non-elasticity seems to be intercourse.
Both male and females have the hormone testosterone regulating their sex drive. As you age, your body goes through changes, which will make it difficult to participate in sex the way you once did. One of these changes is the decreasing of testosterone, which diminishes sex drive, in effect. The fact you cannot participate the way you once did is nothing to be concerned with; in fact, it opens opportunities to try new positions and techniques.
Along with the techniques, you must have the right attitude, because if you think that because you are older, sex will not be as good, it probably won't be. So keep an open mind, stay positive, and try some new things and you will continue to have a satisfying sex life,
Few men can deny the sex appeal of a woman wearing a seamed stocking. It doesn't matter if the dress or skirt is short or mid length since the seam will cause an equal amount of furor in the men who gaze at them no matter what the length of the garment being worn.
When seamed stockings were first produced, it was not done with sex appeal in mind. Consider the fact that back when they were invented, women wore floor length dresses, so the stockings were not in evidence to those men who looked at and admired the ladies strolling by. Although these stockings were designed for utilitarian purposes, it could very well be the inability to see these stockings that raised their sexual appeal. Back then, if a man caught even a glimpse of a stocking encased ankle or calf, it was almost akin to today's men seeing the centerfold in a girlie magazine.
Despite today's skimpy clothing that leave little to the imagination, a woman who maintains mystery often has a greater appeal to men than those who walk around practically nude. Exotic dancers don't usually come on stage without their clothes, but slowly remove each piece as the men watch in anticipation. A woman who wears a veil over her face that covers everything except her eyes will garner as much attention from men as a beautiful woman whose face is exposed and maybe even more so it's the mystery of wondering what's behind that veil that gets so much thought and causes the imagination of men to soar.
The same may be also said of seamed stockings. Regular stockings or pantyhose are plain and don't call much attention. The seam on a stocking literally demands that a man notices a woman's legs. Watching the seam disappear under a skirt or dress further causes a man's imagination to start running, wondering about the promise that the disappearing seam holds.
It's because of the high sex appeal that seamed stocking hold that they have continued to be a popular lingerie item of women who want to promote their femininity and sexual appeal. They come in all types of colors and textures, with fishnet stocking holding the award for all around sexiness.
There are also practical reasons to don stockings. Unlike pantyhose that can actually cause health problems due to the lack of air circulating in the crotch area, because stockings are worn separately and held in place with a garter belt, air can circulate in that area and provide a healthier environment. Another great reason to choose stockings over pantyhose is because if you get a run in one leg of the pantyhose, the entire garment is ruined. If you have a good supply of stocking in the same color, if you get a run in one leg you can merely throw that one out and replace it with another of the same style.